Rules for Baby Shower Planning

Planning a baby shower is a lot of work, and it also involves a lot of unspoken rules.  The last thing you’d want to do is ruin one of your friend’s special days by committing a baby shower faux pas, and it seems like the rules are always changing.  It would be easy if baby shower invitations came with instructions on how to plan a shower, but for now you’ll have to ask the internet.  Before you plan or attend your next baby shower, read this article to make sure that you practice good shower manners.


Generally anybody except for the expecting parent(s) can throw a baby shower for a mother to be, but this open planning rule can lead to some issues.  Before you set your sights on being the shower planner, ask your future mother’s friends and family members if anybody else was hoping to plan the event.  This way you’ll avoid accidently having multiple showers, and you could find yourself somebody who can help you with all of your planning duties.


Like with planning, finding the right date and time to throw the shower is pretty open ended.  There is no right or wrong time to hold a baby shower, and the time of the shower should really depend on the friend you’re throwing it for.  Some expectant mothers may prefer to have to shower during the early months of the pregnancy so she can enjoy the party and avoid feeling the common problems associated with the 3rd trimester of pregnancy.  Your friend may even prefer to have a baby shower after the child is born so that the guests get a chance to see the new baby.


Coming up with the guest list for the baby shower can be a little tricky, especially if you’re planning a surprise shower.  The mother to be would like to have her close family members (no need to invite 2nd cousins or other distant relatives) and close friends attend the shower, and for a baby shower those are all the attendants you need.  Baby showers can be big, but most are intimate events that are designed to have loved ones celebrate the upcoming birth.  If your friend just has her close family members and friends at the shower, she’ll have a good time.

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