Tips for the Bride: Avoid Being a Bridezilla, Stress or No Stress!

January 18th, 2013

There’s no need to explain what a ‘bridezilla’ is – we’ve all seen the shows or, heaven forbid, known one ourselves. Their stressed-out rage and “all-about-me” attitude can drive friends, family, planners, and the groom insane – but as your special day approaches, you might start to realize how the stress could really get to you. No one wants to turn into a bridezilla without even knowing it! So as your bridal shower approaches, here are a few tips that you, as the bride, can use to make sure you’re being fair while still enjoying the fun of the planning.

Don’t Be a Control Freak!

It’s natural to want to have a say in everything – from the bridal shower invitations, right down to the accessories that the bridesmaids will be wearing. At some point, though, you have to remember to pick your battles. Make it clear to your consultants, friends, and future hubby what is most important to you – whether it be having a fancy dress, or what the guest list will look like. It is your day, after all; just bear in mind that the wedding will be perfect because it’s yours, not because of the material things that make it up. Let your friends surprise you by setting up the bridal shower, or let your groom pick out some flowers – don’t take on all the responsibilities yourself and create unnecessary stress!

Don’t Neglect your Groom!

The weeks leading up to the wedding are stressful, but they’ll be even more stressful if there’s any strain on your relationship. Regardless of how overwhelming things get, don’t forget the reason for the wedding: you’re in love! It’s important to remain affectionate during these times, and to do things together, to make the planning of the wedding as special as the wedding itself (and to make sure that no tension builds beforehand!).

Remain Realistic.

Keep in mind that while you’re prepared to drop a pretty penny on your wedding, your bridal party might not be able to. Keep the bridal outings to a reasonable amount and make sure that everyone is comfortable with the dresses they have to wear, especially if they are paying for them. They want to help, so don’t take advantage of the money and time they are willing to spend. Again, you will only create tension.

Avoid Drastic Diets.

Every bride wants to look amazing in her dress, but crash dieting is both dangerous and stressful. Not getting enough nutrition could actually cause you to bloat, which will only add to the stress of wanting to look good. It can also cause mood swings, hair loss, and an upset stomach. If you really want to look (and feel) radiant, research a healthy diet and stick to that – you’ll avoid getting grumpy from hunger and your new health will shine through.

Rules for Baby Shower Planning

January 15th, 2013

Planning a baby shower is a lot of work, and it also involves a lot of unspoken rules.  The last thing you’d want to do is ruin one of your friend’s special days by committing a baby shower faux pas, and it seems like the rules are always changing.  It would be easy if baby shower invitations came with instructions on how to plan a shower, but for now you’ll have to ask the internet.  Before you plan or attend your next baby shower, read this article to make sure that you practice good shower manners.


Generally anybody except for the expecting parent(s) can throw a baby shower for a mother to be, but this open planning rule can lead to some issues.  Before you set your sights on being the shower planner, ask your future mother’s friends and family members if anybody else was hoping to plan the event.  This way you’ll avoid accidently having multiple showers, and you could find yourself somebody who can help you with all of your planning duties.


Like with planning, finding the right date and time to throw the shower is pretty open ended.  There is no right or wrong time to hold a baby shower, and the time of the shower should really depend on the friend you’re throwing it for.  Some expectant mothers may prefer to have to shower during the early months of the pregnancy so she can enjoy the party and avoid feeling the common problems associated with the 3rd trimester of pregnancy.  Your friend may even prefer to have a baby shower after the child is born so that the guests get a chance to see the new baby.


Coming up with the guest list for the baby shower can be a little tricky, especially if you’re planning a surprise shower.  The mother to be would like to have her close family members (no need to invite 2nd cousins or other distant relatives) and close friends attend the shower, and for a baby shower those are all the attendants you need.  Baby showers can be big, but most are intimate events that are designed to have loved ones celebrate the upcoming birth.  If your friend just has her close family members and friends at the shower, she’ll have a good time.